What’s important then is that you make sure to understand why it is that you resent your child, whether in fact you really don’t like them, and then address the issue and try to resolve the problem. While you might try and hide your feelings then, this will not be enough to ensure your child grows up happy and confident as they will still sense themselves as being disliked or the ‘least favorite’ and that kind of insecurity can stay with you forever. If you don’t love your child, if you resent them, or if you ‘love’ them but don’t ‘like’ them, then they will pick up on this to a certain extent through your mannerisms and the way you act toward them – just as you start to suspect something is wrong in a relationship before you get dumped. The thing is that we are all highly sensitive beings and we are all highly astute when it comes to emotions – even in childhood.
This is why it is so drastically important that you love your child and that they know it – so what happens if you don’t like your own child? On the other hand those who are not loved as a child will often feel bitter resentment toward the world, will likely have low self esteem and be unhappy in themselves, and will likely struggle to build meaningful relationships later in their life. If they know love growing up then this will drastically improve their chances of finding it in older age. If a child is loved then this will provide them with confidence, the capacity to love back, and happy childhood memories that will give them an optimistic and unconquerable view throughout the rest of their life. One of the most important aspects of raising a child that perhaps doesn’t always get the attention it deserves is simply making sure that child is loved.
Most of us realize that we need to provide food and shelter for our children, to nurture their intellectual development, and to give them the opportunity to socialize and develop their interpersonal skills. There are many important aspects to caring for and raising a child and all of them will play an important part in your child’s development and how they eventually turn out.
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